Post by Admin on Feb 16, 2016 11:19:30 GMT -5
Whether one is the manipulator or the enabler, it matters not. Chances are, we find ourselves in a ton of legal turmoil be it direct or indirect. Both AA and NA talk about "living life on life's terms". Simply put, this means owning the situation that we find ourselves in. Negative actions have negative consequences. We have lost the privilege of "living life on our own terms" because we have proven that when given the choice of free will, we have put ourselves or someone else in a situation that is not harmonious to the world around us.
For the manipulator, this may mean fines, AA, NA, loss of license to drive, loss of a job, loss of our shelter shelter, loss of friends and family. Loss of a spouse through divorce, our pets. etc What ever the case may be, we must own it. We must take responsibility for it. If we are the manipulator, we must accept the help that AA, NA or life itself sends to us by engaging the use of the Helpers that are all around us. If we do not, our basic needs will not be able to be met and we will find ourselves homeless, with no food and reliant on the charity and donations of others. If we can not change and adapt positively to our situation, we will die.
For the Enabler, this may mean loss of family cohesiveness, loss of material things through the piracy of the manipulator in our lives, hurt feelings etc. We must take responsibility for playing a part in the manipulator's role of their ability to come in and disrupt our lives. We must change and adapt positively to our situation for our own self preservation.
Let life work its way through the situation. The manipulator must now follow court and societal orders with positive adaptation or the situation they find themselves in will only become worse. The enabler must now trust society to care for the manipulator and free themselves of the blame, guilt and self doubt the manipulator has placed on them.
Mistakes just mean that we were on the moon and we now find ourselves among the stars. Learn from it. Self correct it. Have a positive attitude with positive actions and we will rise above to find ourselves successful and living a harmonious life.
For the manipulator, this may mean fines, AA, NA, loss of license to drive, loss of a job, loss of our shelter shelter, loss of friends and family. Loss of a spouse through divorce, our pets. etc What ever the case may be, we must own it. We must take responsibility for it. If we are the manipulator, we must accept the help that AA, NA or life itself sends to us by engaging the use of the Helpers that are all around us. If we do not, our basic needs will not be able to be met and we will find ourselves homeless, with no food and reliant on the charity and donations of others. If we can not change and adapt positively to our situation, we will die.
For the Enabler, this may mean loss of family cohesiveness, loss of material things through the piracy of the manipulator in our lives, hurt feelings etc. We must take responsibility for playing a part in the manipulator's role of their ability to come in and disrupt our lives. We must change and adapt positively to our situation for our own self preservation.
Let life work its way through the situation. The manipulator must now follow court and societal orders with positive adaptation or the situation they find themselves in will only become worse. The enabler must now trust society to care for the manipulator and free themselves of the blame, guilt and self doubt the manipulator has placed on them.
Mistakes just mean that we were on the moon and we now find ourselves among the stars. Learn from it. Self correct it. Have a positive attitude with positive actions and we will rise above to find ourselves successful and living a harmonious life.